Happy Hubby Bedroom Decorating Idea

A tip on how to make decorating a master bedroom easier.

I was going to title this post – How to Make Your Husband Happy in the Bedroom and then I thought twice about it – I didn’t want Google and the Internet search engines getting the wrong impression about my blog, but this post truly is about how I made Ed super happy in the bedroom – especially in the morning.

See the bed?


Ignore the brand new Jonathan Adler Chloe  quilt I picked up at JC Penney on sale the week after Christmas. That makes me happy, it was a gift from me to me.  To Ed, it is just a purple quilt.


Do you see anything else?  Any guesses on why this bed is making my hubby happy? It is not the little bedside table that I picked up on the curb last week and will be transforming soon.

Maybe I should be asking you – “what don’t you see?”


The answer –  Throw pillows!

My New “No Throw Pillow Policy” on My Bed

Ed has no respect for throw pillows. I think 95% of men lean this way when it comes to bedroom decorating ideas.  It took me 30 years of marriage to finally agree and give in to a “No throw pillow policy” on the bed.

I have been thinking about removing the throw pillows for awhile now – the new quilt just made my decision easier.  So why have I kept them on the bed all these years?

One reason, they add visual eye candy to a large expanse, but in reality, they made me feel like the room was decorated – it made the bed look complete – like it came from the pages of a decorating magazine.

But life is too short to have to strive for perfection. I also don’t want to be the caretaker of the wrong details. Throw pillows lead a double life that require too much work.

Think about it, you need to take them off at night and they live on the floor. Then in the morning, you have to pick them all up again and place them stylishly back on the bed.  A twice a day cycle that has no real purpose.  I feel a bit liberated that I broke the cycle.

Ed is now a happy camper when he makes the bed in the morning – no more trying to get the proper placement of each pillow that I use to strive for.  I will however miss when he would purposely make the pillows all askew or stack them on top of each other in a tall pile just to be cute.

To add a little contrast, color, and pattern to the bed now, I am using shams on large bed pillows. These fill the space against the headboard.

They are functional – they can be used to prop up against when reading, are the perfect size to wedge under your legs when your back is sore, or to use to hug when you are feeling sick.

It has only been 2 weeks, but I am enjoying the ease of getting in and out of bed now.

Life is good – simple, uncluttered, yet stylish living is what I am striving  for. I think I am off to a good start; I know Ed definitely thinks so.

How many throw pillows do you have on your bed?

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  1. Gerolene Sterley says:

    I like a throw pillow or two on my bed, but when hubby gets into bed before me, they all get piled onto my side of the bed, much like any reading material he might have been reading before I get to bed. Just plonks it down on my side of the bed. He never complains about my decorating as he says that is my domain and goes along with anything I do.

    Greetings from a wet Cape Town, South Africa.

  2. Ann Marie @ white house black shutters says:

    Here are your purple pillows! I was reading this thinking to myself “yep… yep… yep…” I have a throw pillow + 2 unnecessary shams. My husband doesn’t like them and like you mentioned, it’s an unnecessary step, so why are we doing this?!

    Thank you! I feel freed from my extra pillows, now off to find a quilt + shams. ;)

    1. Diane Henkler says:

      Hi Ann Marie – Happy to have helped you become free of your extra pillows. It has been a few months now that my bed has been throw pillow free. I love it! Less work and visual clutter. :-)

  3. What a pretty, feminine bedroom.

  4. i do happen to be a pillow fan my honey not so much i have to pick them up off the floor everyday lol

  5. I have no throw pillows on my bed either. You have a husband to keep happy, I have a dog. Yes, the dog does not like throw pillows on the bed and I’ll spare you the details of what he does to show his displeasure. Oddly, he allows me to have throw pillows on the sofa!

  6. Lol Jon despises throw pillows too! Love the new quilt and goes with the color of the year!!!

    1. Diane Henkler says:

      Hi Katie –

      I think it is truly a guy thing. You can tell Jon he has a throw pillow disliking buddy in PA :) I did not think I would like seeing the bed sans throw pillows, but the ease and simplicity has really grown on me.

  7. Kelly @ Eclectically Vintage says:

    They say the way to a man’s heart is by throwing away all throw pillows!

    1. Diane Henkler says:

      Ed would agree with that! I feel liberated now that I have chosen to go throw pillowless :)

  8. My hubby doesn’t like throw pillows until he tries to get comfy watching tv while in bed. Then he misses them all. Go figure!

  9. haha…I have too many, but I LOVE them. They just like so pretty when my bed is all made up. But I live alone, so don’t have to worry about pleasing anyone but me ;)

  10. Hah, Deb. I had to laugh at your comment. Maybe you could put the needlework monogram on a chair? Just keep ’em off the bed?

    My husband doesn’t care for pillow shams either. He takes his off the bed and puts it on the floor at night, and back on the bed in the morning. I love them and will not give them up.

    I put the decorative pillows in our guestroom where nobody ever sleeps. Then it’s more like a decoration. I take them off if someone is coming to stay.

  11. Love your room! And while I wholeheartedly agree on the “pillow purge” I can’t help wondering what one beautiful needlepoint pillow would look like on the bed? Not too tiny–maybe a monogram–just an ode to the handmade arts?

  12. I LOVE the Chloe quilt! My bedroom was dark, rich purple pre-husband. Now I use purple as an accent color. Anyway, my husband is in the group leader of anti-throw pillows. He makes the bed on the weekends and never puts the throw pillows back. Maybe it’s time for them to live elsewhere in the house. Ugh…doesn’t that mean he was right? Oh no….

  13. YEAH!!!!! I am so happy to hear you threw the throw pillows. I follow your post, love your home, love your style but I am unlike so many other women (in fact, everyone in my family makes fun of me). I HATE throw pillows. To me they do nothing but get in the way. I never went with the whole throw pillow theme, I just couldn’t understand why you would stack them on the floor at night only to put them on your bed during the day. So I love your new look.

  14. Joanne B. says:

    I read, with great interest, your idea of removing the throw pillows on my king size bed. It’s something I have thought about from time to time, but I am a creature of habit and have gotten pretty robotic about removing/placing them off/on the bed every night/morning. With the new year, I am also re-evaluating my home for small changes in an attempt to change things up a bit. I will try removing my 4 throws (in addition to the 2 shams that I would keep) and see how I like it. But I have one question- and a BIG one- how, how, how did you get Ed to make the bed? I am so jealous I could scream/cry/pound my fists into my throw pillows! 33 years and it has never happened in this house and I feel pretty safe saying it never will! My hub has many other attributes to make up for not having this one, but just once it might be nice…

    1. Diane Henkler says:

      Hi Joanne –

      I never had to ask Ed to make the bed, he makes it without any prompting. :) I guess I can thank his mom and dad for training him well. He does not make it every morning, but if I jump in the shower before I make the bed or go downstairs to put the tea pot or coffee on – when I get back the bed is always made.

  15. Sheryll & Critters. says:

    I have not had throw pillows for years and have not missed them one tiny bit.

    And I just got a quilted bedspread at Kmart for a grand total of $30 and I love it. Plus it is reversible to a soft plaid pattern as well. I bought a King size even though my bed is a queen size, cause I can not abide a skimpy cover whether a quilt or simple spread. I have one of those 15 inch high pillow top beds (wish I had never bought it, cause it is almost impossible to find sheets with a depth to actually cover it and tuck in. lol

  16. I love your line…”don’t want to be the caretaker of the wrong details.” So true!

  17. Miriam Schulman ( SchulmanArt) says:

    lol! you are too funny! yep– my husband hates the throw pillows too. I think it reminds him of a teenage girl’s bed covered in stuffed animals.

  18. This post convinced me to nix the decorative pillows. I am always spending too much time fussing and fretting over getting the “how they look in magazines;” look! Love your quilt and shams.

  19. My husband never makes the bed, but I’m guessing this is a man thing. I recently purchased a new comforter with shams with no cutesy pillows. I’m loving not having to stack them somewhere each night to get into bed. And I’ve adjusted to less than perfect. Glad to see you as a designer doing the same. :)

  20. I declared this the year of less stuff in my house…..and I must say it never occurred to me to ditch the pillows…however, this will be happening this week. So thank you! I love this idea and as much as I think it looks nice, I don’t think I’ll miss them. Happy New Year!

  21. I am totally with you. I have two throw pillows on the bed and they are going away today. Also, your quilt is fabulous.

  22. This is so true!! My husband has an intense dislike for all those pillows on the bed. He also hates the dining table set up when no one is eating at it. So I try to appease him except when we are entertaining.. I confess I am less stressed not having extra stuff to do everyday.

  23. Your post hit home. My husband was very happy when we got a king-size bed sans throw pillows. Love the color in your room. It is so nice to see warmth in a room. I also have been known to find discarded treasure on the side of the road. I can’t wait to see what you do with it.

  24. Beverley Leonie says:

    Looks gorgeous. Lovely quilt. Congratulations on not slavishly following trends. I have always used four standard pillows and one and only one throw pillow. Very satisfied with that look and also my husband is not confused by pillow arrangement when he makes the bed.

  25. Maureen Donohue says:

    I am totally with you on throw pillows on the bed. I love the eye candy but despise moving them on and off. So pointless. Celebrate your freedom, girl.

  26. Beautiful! I love your bedroom and LOVE the “purple quilt”. On the rare days my husband makes our bed, I always find the throw pillows in a pile on the floor…do you think it’s a “guy thing”? Enjoy your lovely room!