DIY wedding inspiration and ideas for a rustic barn wedding.
Hello! Do you remember me, Diane of In My Own Style?
It has been awhile since I last posted. :-)
Since June 9th I have been in “wedding mode” that included pre and post wedding events. I decided to go off the grid and enjoy the time off from the blog and all things internet. I have never done that before and figured after 9 years of blogging, going on a little break would be OK.
It turns out it was a good thing, as the events and our travels the past two weeks have given me lots of inspiration.
Most bloggers share family photos on Facebook, but since Facebook only shows about a dozen of my followers my posts, I decided to share them in a post right here on my blog. Get ready for photo overload. I have to thank friends and especially, Beth Mooney who took most of these photos and made the video at the end of this post.
It is the perfect way for me to get back into blogging mode.
My oldest daughter, Kelly got married on June 16th near Charlottesville, Va. It was a wedding that I helped organize from afar down to reserving hotel blocks and buses to and from the venue. Ordering flowers, making decor, and more. I will share a few of the DIY’s I did with you over the next few weeks. I relied heavily on Pinterest for ideas that I could make at home and transport to Virginia.
A week before the wedding, Kelly had 6 of her friends and my son-in-laws parents came down to the lake house for a little pre-wedding fun.
The weather was perfect and there was lots of action on the water…
…and right off the dock all week.
Races…
…obstacle courses and more. It was action packed.
On Thursday before the wedding we packed up 4 cars with tons of wedding stuff and drove up to Charlottesville. We ran around C’ville all day Friday getting last minute stuff and then headed to the rehearsal dinner on Friday night. I was pretty exhausted at this point, but still had to set up for the wedding.
On Saturday morning, the day of the wedding, we headed to the venue to get everything setup before the first bus load of guests arrived from Charlottesville to the venue that was 45 minutes away in Waynesboro, VA. It was the perfect setting for Kelly who loves horses and has been riding since she was in second grade.
It was a beautiful place. Since the sun was shining, we had the ceremony outside. If it rained, the ceremony would have been…
…held inside the stable area…
… here. The chairs outside are placed in here with a middle aisle. Since it was outside, guests had the freedom to explore all over the farm and stables.
The reception area is where I had to put my past experience as a retail visual merchandiser and DIY skills to use. We had to set everything up. We paid for the use of the farm for the day that included the table and chairs, everything else had to be brought in or rented. Caterers, bar tenders, tablecloths… everything even down to 35 big bags of ice for the bars.
We kept the decorations simple using colorful bandanas for napkins that we bought on Amazon to add color to the space.
Baby’s Breath in Mason jars as the centerpieces.
Out by the entrance and bar area, I set up a table for…
…seating cards, photos and favors.
This part of the venue is where the guests first came and the cocktail hour started. I set up a Popcorn Bar so the guests could munch while they drank and waited for all the guests coming on two charter buses to arrive.
After about 45 minutes everyone went outside for the ceremony with drinks in hand. Kelly and Roger wanted a very casual and fun affair and told everyone to dress comfy. Shorts were fine and many wore them.
I wore a sleeveless Gingham Pleated-Neck Shift Dress. Kelly’s dress was my younger sister’s Laura’s wedding dress. It was perfect and helped Kelly keep wedding expenses on budget.
My twin sister Carol wore the same dress as me. One fun part of being an identical twin. We got everyone confused as to who was who. :-) I am on the left.
The two loves of Kelly’s life. Roger and horses!!!
The farm had many great places for photo ops.
Walkways, paths, and an outdoor fireplace and patio where we got to watch the sunset.
We set up games out on the lawn. I wasn’t sure anyone would play, but…
…they did until it got too dark to see.
I mentioned in a post a few weeks ago that I was making a tiered stand for the wedding donuts. I made it so it can be taken apart. It was the only way to transport it.
They were delish and enjoyed by all.
There was only one bridesmaid, my younger daughter, Mandy and the best man was Roger’s best friend, Michael.
Planning a wedding took a lot of time and effort, but in the end…was worth every minute. The day was everything Kelly and Roger wanted… a party that was wedding themed, nothing fancy or traditional. As one of my friends said, she did it just like you… in her own style. :-)
Kelly and Roger Wedding Video:
Thanks to Beth Mooney for making this video.
On Sunday, the day after the wedding, Kelly and Roger hosted a brunch at their house and then it was time to box up all the wedding stuff and clean up.
On Monday, Ed and I headed to Pennsylvania to visit my sisters for a few days and to attend another wedding of one of our younger daughter’s friends. The festivities for this wedding started on Thursday night in center city Philadelphia.
We checked into a hotel in Philadelphia for two nights and during the day we did sightseeing. I grew up in suburban Philadelphia and did all the touristy things when I was a kid.
Ed however mentioned that he had never seen the Liberty Bell, even after living in the Philadelphia area for 22 years. So we headed there so he could check it off his bucket list of places to go.
On Saturday after the second wedding in a week, we left Philadelphia and headed to the shore for two days. Friends of ours have a home in Stone Harbor, NJ and they invited us to spend the weekend there with them. It was nice to sit on the beach with a book and just relax after going non-stop for the past two weeks.
On Monday we drove back to South Carolina. Yesterday, I breathed… Today I feel like life is back to normal once again.
Lisa Marie says
03/14/2019 at 3:01 pmWhat a lovely informal wedding! It’s so nice to see a couple do this instead of the overblown, budget busting weddings that couples have today. Everything was just beautiful and the guests look like they were having a blast! Congrats to the happy couple.!!!
Diane Henkler says
03/14/2019 at 4:57 pmHi Lisa Marie – It was a beautiful wedding. The weather perfect and everything went as planned. My daughter wanted it to be informal which every guest enjoyed, especially the part that they could wear whatever they wanted. :-)
sristhi says
09/28/2018 at 11:11 amnice pics.. and congrats.. thanks for sharing those memorable moments with us
Cindy says
08/06/2018 at 2:12 pmMy granddaughter is getting married later this month. I love the popcorn bar idea.
In the lake pictures, I noticed that you have a paddle board that has peddles. I have been thinking of getting one and was wondering how you like yours. It looks like fun as well as a good workout. I have tried to find me a used one as they are a little pricey.
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07/09/2018 at 8:13 amWhat a lovely wedding and couple. Such beautiful photos! I adore that you and your sister decided to wear the same dresses. I did recognize you ;)
Diane Henkler says
07/09/2018 at 12:01 pmHi Julia – Thanks – I am still trying to get back into my normal daily mode after so much wedding planning and events. My sister and I still like to have fun and do the twin thing. We figure, Why not? since it is a big part of what makes us unique in the world.
Jaye Brown says
07/09/2018 at 12:29 amWe had a great weekend in Charlottesville and at Kelly’s wedding. It was a great wedding themed party. We always enjoy being with you guys and hanging with the family and old friends. The video is great and puts a smile on my face. Looking forward to a visit at the lake. Keep on blogging… have always loved your creativity and style. Jaye & Dave
Diane Henkler says
07/09/2018 at 12:12 pmHi Jaye – It was great seeing and you and Dave. So glad you got in early and we could spend a few days together. Looking forward to when you can visit the lake. XO
nexvan says
07/08/2018 at 3:44 pmDiane Henkler, I so enjoyed the photos of this beautiful wedding Congratulations!
Kari Rogers-Miller says
07/07/2018 at 10:47 amBeautiful Diane and what a wonderful casual wedding. I know it was a lot of work but you made it look easy.
I love all the details and I know the beautiful bride and her handsome hubby were more than happy with the way it turned out. Of course I am partial to horses and stables as we raised (and showed) Western Pleasure horses for years and years.
Are you going to Haven next week?
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Diane Henkler says
07/11/2018 at 3:29 pmHi Kari – Yes I am going to Haven. I am one of the Mentors this year. Are you going?
Sheryll $ Critters. says
07/06/2018 at 6:01 pmWhat a wonderful wedding themed party and marriage!
TerriC/HoustonLady says
07/02/2018 at 10:18 amHi Diane,
What a beautiful couple! Here’s wishing them many blessings. Thanks for sharing : )
cam says
06/29/2018 at 6:23 pmLooks like the wedding had ‘fun’ written all over it! So many creative touches uniquely yours. Very refreshing to see such a relaxed, casual setting, the candid images. The photo of Ed playing croquet with the little girl looks like a print ad for a ‘liquid refreshment’ product or men’s clothing line from an upscale magazine. :) My father was a professional photographer so we grew up with him spending many a Saturday off taking wedding pics (in the 50s, 60s, 70s). Mostly b&w, mom did some pastel tinting. Interesting to see how weddings have evolved over the decades (with some now revisiting the ‘vintage’ look). Thanks for sharing, Diane!
Diane Henkler says
06/30/2018 at 11:16 amHi Cam – My daughter has a friend who wants to have a side business as a wedding photographer. She took most of the photos at the wedding. I took a few myself, including the one of Ed you mentioned. It is come out nice. Just a lucky shot when everything simply came together, light, angle, etc. :-)
Growing up with your parents in the business must have been interesting to have seen how the industry has grown and changed and like most things, see the trends come back around again.
Connie Johnson says
06/29/2018 at 4:11 pmThanks for sharing the lovely wedding pics! It must be something with weddings in this era…our son got married two weeks ago and they kept it all very, very simple but lovely! Congratulations on the new son :)
Ashley @ the handmade home says
06/29/2018 at 8:52 amThis is awesome, Diane! Love it. The donuts are my fave :D congratulations – everything and everyone is beautiful. ;}
Janet says
06/29/2018 at 7:23 amWhat a beautiful wedding! Thanks for sharing such a wonderful event. More photos would have been perfectly fine by me. Congratulations Diane.
Katie says
06/29/2018 at 3:33 amAbsolutely gorgeous wedding pictures! And the bride is lovely and looked just like her mama!
Diane Henkler says
07/11/2018 at 3:39 pmThanks Katie – XO
Donnamae says
06/28/2018 at 11:20 pmOh…how wonderful it all looked! The setting, the style of wedding, your daughter’s dress…all wows in my book. Congrats to the happy couple. I’m betting now, you could do with a bit of a rest. Thanks for posting all the pics! ;)
Kimberly Bruhn says
06/28/2018 at 9:20 pmCongrats to your expanding family! Everything looked just
like the right sort of elegant and fun!
Diane Henkler says
06/28/2018 at 9:56 pmThank you Kimberly
Jen says
06/28/2018 at 5:01 pmCongratulations! What a lovely wedding. I liked the popcorn bar! And you looked beautiful (I could tell you were on the left ;) )
Diane Henkler says
06/28/2018 at 9:43 pmHi Jen – Thanks. I got the idea for the popcorn bar on Pinterest. It was a huge hit. Most of my friends can tell my twin sister and I apart, but they get a kick out of the way we talk, move, and express ourselves the same way when they see us together.
Elaine Williams in Baltimore says
06/28/2018 at 4:40 pmOMG! I loved everything. What a neat idea for the venue. Kelly looks exactly like you but your sister – well that’s just crazy. I thought I was seeing double. So cute that you two dressed alike. Hubby ain’t bad either! LOL. The two attendants was genius. My son and his wife had 10 (YES 10) on each side when they got married in Aug 2014. It was pandemonium plus! It looks like you all had fun pre and post wedding. Get some rest. The blog can wait.
Diane Henkler says
06/28/2018 at 10:00 pmThanks for the good advise Elaine. I am doing just that and slowly getting back into my daily routine. Kelly does look like me and my youngest, Mandy looks like Ed. The wedding we went to in Philadelphia had 12 – 6 on each side, which I thought was a lot. Wow 10 attendants at your sons wedding. That is a lot. I am sure it made both your son and his wife to have so many friends right there with them. :-)
Carol Heartfelt Whimsies says
06/28/2018 at 3:52 pmWhat a beautiful wedding! Loved the venue and the decor!
The popcorn and doughnut ideas are fabulous!!!
Also—your hair looks darling!
Please tell your daughters they looked absolutely beautiful!!
Diane Henkler says
06/28/2018 at 10:08 pmHi Carol – Thanks. :-) I will tell my daughters. It will make their day. I am loving my hair, the styling ease and not having to worry about touching up the every two weeks with hair color. I found the ideas for the popcorn bar and donut stand on Pinterest. I am usually adding ideas to Pinterest. It was nice to use it to find ideas.
Kathy says
06/28/2018 at 2:36 pmCongratulations! The wedding looked wonderful! My daughter got married 6 months ago and loved planning it with her but it is a lot of worK! Looks like all of your skills came in handy to make such a nice wedding for your daughter. Thank you for share….I love weddings!
MarianneB says
06/28/2018 at 2:15 pmCongratulations! Thanks for sharing! The Bride was beautiful and I especially loved your gingham dress, so “of the moment”! Best wishes—-and though you stayed in Stone Harbor—-I know that boardwalk….OCNJ! ?
Diane Henkler says
06/28/2018 at 10:11 pmHi Marianne – You have a good eye and of course those in the know, know that there is no boardwalk in Stone Harbor. On our way home we had to go north to get on the AC Expressway so we decided to stop and eat breakfast at Browns on the OC boardwalk. We also went to Shrivers to get some taffy. That is where I took the photo. :-) It was a beautiful day, which made it really hard to leave on our 11 hour trip home.
Vikki says
06/28/2018 at 1:55 pmBeautiful wedding Dianne. Kelly’s dress was drop dead gorgeous! The pictures are amazing. Thanks for sharing such a lovely event.
Diane Henkler says
06/28/2018 at 10:14 pmHi Vikki – I forgot to mention in the post that the dress Kelly wore was my younger sister Laura’s wedding dress. It was the perfect fit and style.
Vikki says
06/29/2018 at 12:42 pmI think it is so wonderful to be able to use a family ‘heirloom’ like a wedding dress. I forgot to mention that I fell in love with Mandy’s shoes! I just looked at the post for a second time and saw the video. Don’t know how I missed it. What a fun wedding. Did they go to Hawaii for their honeymoon? Wishing Kelly and Roger the very best.
Susan Verbaan says
06/28/2018 at 1:38 pmDiane,
Once again you show your talents as a designer. I love that the wedding was personal and not a great big showy event. Venue was amazing and your were blessed to have a beautiful day. The simplicity of the decor and that you made it, was more meaningful then the overblown excess that is so popular these days. Loved your nod to people who were missing?.
Enjoy your blog, Sue
Diane Henkler says
06/28/2018 at 10:18 pmHi Sue – Thanks. I was so happy that the weather was perfect. It made the day everything Kelly and Roger has hoped for. I got the idea for the board to show the grandparents and family and friends who passed away… on Pinterest. It was one small way to remember those that played a huge part in Kelly and Rogers lives.
Kelly Elko says
06/28/2018 at 1:00 pmDiane you did an amazing job! I’m sure Kelly was thrilled with the wedding and she looked beautiful as did you and your sister in matching dresses! I am suddenly craving doughnuts too! Glad everything turned out perfectly.
Diane Henkler says
06/28/2018 at 10:19 pmHi Kelly – Thanks – It was a lot of work, but all the efforts paid off. The donuts were delish. They were made by Duck Donuts. The ones with the Bacon on them were the first to go. Hope you are enjoying your trip.
Becky says
06/28/2018 at 12:17 pmWhat a beautiful wedding! I love that you kept it so casual and relaxing for everyone. Thank you for sharing. My daughter is getting married in September and I’m totally stealing the popcorn station, the table seating cards and especially the “wish they were here” frame!
Diane Henkler says
06/28/2018 at 10:24 pmHi Becky – Congrats to your daughter. September will be here before you know it. I hope all your prep goes smoothly and is as stress-free as possible. I got all the ideas for the wedding on Pinterest. There are quite a lot of pins showing all types and styles of weddings. Have you looked there yet for ideas?
Sharon says
06/28/2018 at 12:13 pmThank you for sharing such a special and fun occasion. Congratulations!
Beth at Unskinny Boppy says
06/28/2018 at 12:03 pmOh it all looks so FUN! What a great wedding! Congrats to Kelly and you too, mama! You did a great job!! I hope the Pinterest traffic you’ll get from that fabulous donut tiered stand earns enough pageviews to pay for the whole wedding. :D
Diane Henkler says
06/28/2018 at 10:26 pmHi Beth – Thanks. :-) I made sure when I was making the donut stand that I got a lot of photos to create a tutorial post. I am hoping that it will become an evergreen post. Would love it if it gets lots of pageviews.
Mary H says
06/28/2018 at 11:59 amLovely wedding. Looks like a beautiful and memorable event for the lucky couple. Thanks for sharing and you deserve some time off when you have such an important event and besides it renews your engines!!
Catherine says
06/28/2018 at 10:32 amHow wonderful Diane! Thank you for sharing this happy occasion with us. Your donut stand is just great! What will become of it now?
I’m so glad that you took some time for yourself, Diane. You need to take a break from your busy schedule and just chill every once in awhile. It’s just good for the spirit to refresh and re-energize. Good for you, and thank you for taking care of yourself.
Have a happy summer!
Diane Henkler says
06/28/2018 at 10:30 pmHi Catherine –
I will hold on to the donut stand just in case my younger daughter may want to use it when she gets married. In the meantime, one of my friends asked to use it for cupcakes for her sons wedding. Maybe after that I will rent it out. :-)
Gail Vernali says
06/28/2018 at 10:15 amCongratulations to the new larger family! Lovely photos, love the one of you and your twin sister, too funny. The donut stand came out great, do you think that would hold cupcakes? I may need to borrow it in October. Welcome back.
Sylvia Robinson says
06/28/2018 at 10:13 amI enjoy your column so much. The wedding pictures were gorgeous.
I teared up when I saw “Wish you were here”. I think I’ll include this in future
family get-togethers to include the people we miss in our lives. Thank you!!
Diane Henkler says
06/28/2018 at 10:32 pmHi Sylvia – I found the idea for the Wish You Were Here board on Pinterest. It tweaked it to fit the style of the wedding using an old frame, cardboard and burlap. I will be sharing a tutorial soon.
Sheryl says
06/28/2018 at 10:06 amThis was beautiful! Thank you for sharing. Our daughter is getting married next July and is also planning on having donuts. As another reader commented, I too would appreciate a tutorial on how to make your donut stand. :) P.S. perhaps it’s my iPad, but the video gives a “this video is not available” error :’(
Lynn W says
06/28/2018 at 9:22 amWhat an exciting event and so glad you took the time to enjoy everything.
You have a beautiful family. ?
Can’t wait see more about the DIY’s. Welcome back ?
Amy Bohner says
06/28/2018 at 9:02 amIt was a beautiful wedding…..you out did yourself! It was so nice to see the girls all grown up! I will share these pictures with teachers from Nash!
Teresa Emrich says
06/28/2018 at 8:57 amWhat an exciting time for your family. Wedding was well planned and executed. We all create such a hassle when planning our children’s weddings, but you had just the right idea. This special time should be fun and memorable for all, not an exhausting time. GREAT, GREAT JOB…..THE newly weds and families will remember this day for a long time to come.
Kim says
06/28/2018 at 8:49 amCongratulations Diane and entire family! Looks like it was a lovely, relaxing event. I especially loved the tiered donut stand with the gorgeous, colorful flowers on top and at the base!
Lynda @Me and My Pink Mixer says
06/28/2018 at 8:38 amCongratulations to your daughter! I live in Harrisonburg and have been to several weddings at Hermitage Hill – it’s such a pretty venue.
Our daughter is getting married next June and I love all of your details, especially the popcorn bar and donut stand. Our daughter & her fiance want donuts too, so I hope you’ll do a tutorial on the stand! It looks like it was a beautiful wedding and I loved all of the photos. Congrats!
Lorraine Champion says
06/28/2018 at 8:35 amThank you so much for sharing this beautiful wedding with us. The venue, the decorations, everything was just perfect. You are so very creative.
Terri says
06/28/2018 at 8:29 amLove everything about this, congrats! You look fantastic!
Joanne B. says
06/28/2018 at 7:53 amGlad to hear you had some well deserved R&R although I was beginning to worry! Lovely pictures from your lovely family event. I especially loved that you described the day as a “wedding themed party”! Lots of work but done with love. Like mother/like daughter! Doing things in her own style! She certainly learned from the best!
Laura at Duke manor farm says
06/28/2018 at 7:46 amOkay, I’m crying. Love all the pics especially the one of y’all walking Kelly. The whole event looked lovely . Congrats to roger and kelly.
Gina says
06/28/2018 at 7:18 amWhat a fun wedding! Love how casual and relaxed everyone is. The venue is gorgeous!
Karen baetzel says
06/28/2018 at 7:02 amHi Diane – you and Ed look fabulous! So happy for you and Kelly and family. Love the blog. Karen and Bernie
Lisa Schipritt says
06/28/2018 at 6:10 amJust Beautiful!!! Thank you so much for sharing!!!!
Linda S says
06/28/2018 at 2:58 amI so enjoyed the photos of this beautiful wedding and all the effort put into making this a wonderful event. Congratulations!
Rosemary says
06/28/2018 at 1:56 amExhausting but so worth it, look at the smiles on everyone’s face. Beautiful wedding for a beautiful daughter. Congratulations to all.
Debe says
06/28/2018 at 1:10 amNow this was fun and simple. I hate weddings where eb eff rything is so stiff and formal. This looked so fun and everyone looked relaxed!
Donuts were awesome looking and the popcorn bar great idea!
People relaxing and playing games!!!
Great job!
Sharon H says
06/28/2018 at 12:12 amWhat a delightfully fun event! They and everyone who attended will remember it forever, and smile at each and every memory. You did yourself proud, Diane! And I must say it’s amazing how much Kelly looks like you! By the way, I knew it was you on the left….without you even saying it!
Carol says
06/28/2018 at 12:09 amI love weddings, especially ones that the couple seems to be so happy. Thank you for taking time to share such wonderful memories. Congratulations to all.
alda ellis says
06/28/2018 at 12:05 amCongratulations on your beautiful daughter’s wedding. I do weddings every week, and understand how much work is involved! I have read your blog for years and love your creative talents…thank you for sharing such a special day with us all….hugs!
Kris says
06/27/2018 at 11:58 pmCongratulations Diane and family! What a beautiful wedding and the bride and groom just beamed! We too are getting ready for our son’s wedding in 23 days. I am learning to use a Cricut, with no manual, for the first time so I can make signs. I could feel your exhaustion from here, but we would do no less for our children. I hope you catch up on some well deserved rest!
Arli says
06/27/2018 at 11:54 pmCongratulations and thanks for sharing the pix of such a wonderful event!